This rings very true for me. Before I retired, when I would occasionally be in a position to talk to groups of young librarians they would be astonished when I would tell them how introverted and shy I am. They’d only have known me as the frequent conference speaker, the leader of the rock band that performed at the annual convention, the writer/blogger known for speaking his mind. I’d laugh and explain that so much of it is performance, that when I had a specific role to play I could activate the necessary parts of my personality. They wouldn’t have seen the tremor in my hand as I approached the speaker’s podium, wouldn’t have known about the knots in my gut for the hour before the gig, but I knew that when I hit the first chord or popped up the first slide all my anxieties would dissipate and I’d be the relaxed and engaging, outgoing guy the occasion required. My wife was once described as having “whole cities inside her”, which is a very apt description. Far more than most of us, she’s always been very intentional about which cities get displayed to which people under which circumstances. So yes, I think we all are a collection of personalities and it’s in the interactions we have with others that different aspects come to the fore. You might enjoy a long essay I wrote a few years ago that goes into some of these issues in more detail. It’s on my old typepad blog which I kept for many years before moving to Substack. “You’re That Guy” https://tscott.typepad.com/tsp/2022/02/youre-that-guy.html
This rings very true for me. Before I retired, when I would occasionally be in a position to talk to groups of young librarians they would be astonished when I would tell them how introverted and shy I am. They’d only have known me as the frequent conference speaker, the leader of the rock band that performed at the annual convention, the writer/blogger known for speaking his mind. I’d laugh and explain that so much of it is performance, that when I had a specific role to play I could activate the necessary parts of my personality. They wouldn’t have seen the tremor in my hand as I approached the speaker’s podium, wouldn’t have known about the knots in my gut for the hour before the gig, but I knew that when I hit the first chord or popped up the first slide all my anxieties would dissipate and I’d be the relaxed and engaging, outgoing guy the occasion required. My wife was once described as having “whole cities inside her”, which is a very apt description. Far more than most of us, she’s always been very intentional about which cities get displayed to which people under which circumstances. So yes, I think we all are a collection of personalities and it’s in the interactions we have with others that different aspects come to the fore. You might enjoy a long essay I wrote a few years ago that goes into some of these issues in more detail. It’s on my old typepad blog which I kept for many years before moving to Substack. “You’re That Guy” https://tscott.typepad.com/tsp/2022/02/youre-that-guy.html