"For him, the spiritual path isn’t about destroying your neuroses — he was always the first to admit that his decades of inner work hadn’t seen him displace a single one — but changing the way in which you relate to them. The more you make peace with your inner demons, the less power they have to frighten you, so that what starts out as a horror show in your head gradually turns into more of a tea party with assorted guests. Eventually you’re self-doubting, tired and afraid, but not attached to being self-doubting, tired and afraid, so that your neuroses are things you have but not things you particularly identify with. They’re just there." This has helped!
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"For him, the spiritual path isn’t about destroying your neuroses — he was always the first to admit that his decades of inner work hadn’t seen him displace a single one — but changing the way in which you relate to them. The more you make peace with your inner demons, the less power they have to frighten you, so that what starts out as a horror show in your head gradually turns into more of a tea party with assorted guests. Eventually you’re self-doubting, tired and afraid, but not attached to being self-doubting, tired and afraid, so that your neuroses are things you have but not things you particularly identify with. They’re just there." This has helped!
Thanks so much! And now you resurfacing the sentiment has helped me in turn XD
Yes! I’ve noticed this, too. “I accept, and even appreciate this” is wonderful because it works at any layer of this stack.